Posts Tagged ‘excuses’

The Truth Will Set You Free – The Lies that are keeping you from your goals

Monday, September 2nd, 2013

Probably the biggest reason most people fail to achieve the results they are looking for is down to the lies they tell.

They are not conscious lies, but their words and actions simply don’t marry.

If you ask most people who start out a health and fitness plan how focused and serious they are about their desired goal, the answer is usually “completely 100% committed”. And to them that is the truth. They really do WANT to achieve these goals, but wanting something and being committed to achieving it are two separate things.

Everything in life has a cost. If you want an expensive car, you either have to work to improve your income or you have to do without other luxuries in your life. If you didn’t need to do these things, you would have the car already. You have to be committed to the changes needed.

So you might look at a Ferrari and think, I wish I could afford one of those. But how much do you wish that? If it really was the highest priority in your life, you would find cheaper accommodation, you would NEVER go to the movies, or to a night out, you would cancel any satellite subscriptions you have, in fact your TV license money could go to the car if you did away with your TV, which you could sell to add to the pot. No more eating out, no magazines, no snacks, no expensive clothing, just what is practical to allow your survival. And all that extra time you have now that you are not in front of the TV or involved in any pastimes could be used to further your career or build a new one. If this truly is your biggest life desire, you will find a way to achieve it.

It would take quite an empty life for such a thing as a car to play such a big part in anyone’s life, but it is just an example.

Switch that to health and fitness. Around 99% of the planet would like to improve something about their health, fitness or physique. Very few people would wake up, take one look in the mirror and think ‘Perfect! As always’. So everyone would WANT to make a change, but many people simply accept, rightly or wrongly, that they want a life of indulgence more. They would rather go out drinking every weekend, have a takeaway every night, or live off pizza and chocolate and simply suffer the consequences when they arrive.

But a large portion of those who start a fitness plan lie to themselves about this fact. They say they want a six pack, more energy or improved muscle tone, but then every weekend the posts go up on the social media sites about how it’s nearly pub time, or time for a bottle of red, that the fridge is stocked with booze, it’s party time etc.

Then you get the cries of regret come Sunday or Monday morning. “Never drinking again”, “Why did I eat that?”, “That’s it, no more for me, diet starts today” and so on.

In actual fact, what is really happening is, through the week, when it life is a bit more regimented and anything is better than work, getting to the gym maybe isn’t such a chore, it’s a relief. But come the weekend, being popular and accepted by your peers becomes more important than the fitness goals.

The reason being, in most cases, the goal is also about the acceptance of others. It is buried in a belief that if you look better more people will like you or compliment you and that will make you feel good and happy. But come party time, getting drunk or indulging in fast food and junk food also gets you acceptance, only the result is instant. It happens right there and then. Everyone tells you how you are a great laugh, they are having a great time in your company etc and you will do anything to conform.

Then on the Monday, you remember your goals and you announce to the world your regrets, that way they all forgive you or tell you that one little indulgence won’t hurt. And again you get your social acceptance fix.

But always there is this internal struggle. You have a goal, but you never reach it. You blame the diet. You blame your trainer. You blame your workout. You seek out a new diet approach or a new workout routine. The latest fitness classes and start drinking that detox drink everyone is raving about. You sacrifice for a few weeks, and of course you tell everyone how hard it is, but you are sticking to it (to make sure you get your social acceptance fix as they applaud your efforts, though only if it’s for a few weeks, because that party at the end of the month is HUGE and you HAVE to drink at that).

And so the cycle continues.

Until you unlock the truth, there is no chance of moving forwards. You might make some progress, but it will be short lived.

And what is the truth?

Well that will take some real honesty, not with others but with yourself.

How much do you really want to make a change? What change do you truly want to make? And what price are you willing to pay?

Only by discovering the truth can you truly accept who you are and what you are doing. And self acceptance is much more fulfilling than the acceptance of others.

Your Ferrari is yours to have, but the price must be paid.

Melissa Bender Interview

Monday, February 4th, 2013

A common quote that comes up time and again is “I really want to get fit, but I don’t have time to get to the gym. What can I do at home?”. Melissa Bender is here to help. Melissa is renowned for her online videos demonstrating how to work out at home when the gym is just out of your reach. 

Melissa Bender Interview

Melissa is an Occupational Therapist who works in a skilled nursing facility, so some of her patients are there for short term rehab, and other’s live there permanently. Her job is to help people become stronger and more independent in all of their life skills. She has two cats, Gambit and Buffy who like to make guest appearances in her workout videos.

Can you tell us if you have always been into keeping fit, or was there a point in your life that you decided to change?

I have always been an active person. I went to high school in a walking school district (no buses), so I got used to walking 3 miles per day during my commute to and from school. I also danced, and later did yoga, which kept me active. However, in 2007 I decided to become a flight attendant and quit the dance team that I was on. I wasn’t living the active lifestyle I had grown up with. As someone who wasn’t used to an “exercise program” I lost a lot of my athleticism. When I started dating my husband I decided to start running with him. I was shocked to learn that I could only run a few blocks before I had to stop and walk. Slowly I built my strength and endurance back up, and learned to love exercise.

Tell us why you decided to focus on making videos for people to work out at home.

I decided to start making videos for people to work out at home for two reasons. First, I was in graduate school, I missed teaching yoga, and I felt like school was consuming all of my time and focus. I needed to do something for the pure enjoyment of it, and I had been planning on starting my blog/videos for a couple of years but kept putting it off. I decided to go for it, and start sharing my passion for fitness! Second, I believe that EVERYONE has a right to be healthy, happy and fit. I have often heard people say that they can’t get in shape because they can’t afford a gym. I firmly believe that you can stay in shape by creating a healthy lifestyle out of your own home, and I wanted to share that with others. If I can influence even one person to make healthy changes in their life I feel that I have made a positive impact on the world. As a therapist I see the difference that fitness makes on your overall health and recovery. Physical fitness can be a strong foundation for mental fortitude, and it teaches you what you are capable of. Everyone deserves to experience their own strength, and know that they are capable of handling anything that comes their way.

How do you stay motivated and focused on your goals

I am motivated by the way exercise and fitness makes me feel. It makes me feel strong, positive, energetic and alert. I set goals that are achievable, and get excited about all of the stepping stones I hit along the way. For example, instead of saying “I want sculpted abs” I focus on the functional aspect of the goal. So my goal might be to improve the length of time I can hold a plank by 10 seconds, or increase the number of hanging leg raises I can do in 60 seconds. By focusing on the small improvements you can make in your fitness, you are working toward the long term goal but you also recognize your progress along the way.

Do you have anyone you look to for fitness inspiration?

Absolutely! My husband inspires me. He is in the Athletic Hall of Fame at the University where we both got our undergraduate degrees for running. He inspires me daily through his own dedication, but also because when I got married I mentally decided that part of my responsibility as a wife is to stay as healthy as possible so that we can have a long and happy life together. I am also greatly inspired by Jamie (Eason) Middleton. She is a wonderful motivator and fitness inspiration. She seems to have found a wonderful balance in her life of faith, fitness, health and love. I find that admirable.

You look fantastic, do you eat healthily too?

I try to make healthy choices, and I love vegetables. I try to eat foods that are more natural. The list of ingredients should all be things I know and recognize. However, I also have a sweet tooth! I don’t consider any foods “off limits” but I do try to eat clean about 90% of the time.

What is your favourite body part to work out?

Abs! And glutes. That’s two body parts. I truly enjoy working my abs, and utilizing all of the muscles that make up the core. Glutes I enjoy working out because it makes me feel strong. Like the core, I enjoy coming up with workouts that utilize all of the muscles that make up the glutes.

What are your personal goals for 2013?

I have several!

-I am planning on competing in my first NPC competition in March. I think it will be a great challenge and motivator. It also encourages me to make healthy eating choices.

-I also want to set a new personal record for my 5K time. I am able to run a 5K about 2 minutes faster on the treadmill than I have done in races. I would love to change that!

-I want to make a fitness DVD.

-Run a half marathon.

-Increase my pull up personal record.

Interview by Barbara Graham through our Facebook resource – Beginners Guide to Getting Ripped – Check it out for more tips and information

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You’ve worked hard all week, you deserve a night off.

Friday, October 28th, 2011

When you spend enough time with people who have similar goals, you start to see patterns emerging. One that I have become more and more aware of is the idea of the ‘night off’.

Most people work hard all week and when the weekend comes, they naturally feel deserving of a break from being strict, healthy or sensible. And if that is what keeps you going through the week, then you should be free to make that choice.

However, I am reminded of something Anthony Robbins once said, that ‘people spend their entire week wishing it away in order to get to a 2 day period, during which they do things to their body that stops them from remembering it’.

And I’m sure, if that doesn’t apply to you, you know of people who it does.

Chances are (being on this site) you have a goal, be it fat loss, muscle building or toning, and you want to achieve. And hopefully, if you have read my other posts, you have an emotional attachment to that goal.

But often even the most driven people continue with the idea that, if they push hard all week and eat healthy, they earn the right to splurge. Maybe it’s just one night per week or a couple per month.

However, what I would like people to understand is that one night per week isn’t simply the sum total of that night.

A few drinks and junk food on a Friday usually leads to poor sleep, dehydration (which puts a strain on the activity of your liver – compromising its ability to mobilize stored fats)  and a long lie.

Activity levels on Saturday are then, like it or not, at a lower level. Your system is still working hard to reset (so digestion and fat burning remain compromised).

Then there is the craving for fried food or more savory junk food. That, in turn, leaves you feeling poor for most of the day with the idea of eating something nutritious or healthy being the furthest thing from your mind.

You may try hitting the gym, but your level is not at its usual standard. You might laugh it off gaining lots of sympathy from those who have been there before, but that isn’t getting the work done and is simply a sub-standard session.

You probably haven’t consumed enough water to fully re-hydrate.

Later you may prepare a higher quality meal, but either over eat (mistaking thirst for hunger) or not eat enough, as you still feel a touch fragile.

At night you may consider a ‘hair of the dog’ remedy to carry you through, when actually an early night would be preferable.

Come Sunday, you may feel better, but given your sub-optimal Saturday, chances are you are still not firing on all levels.

That whole process could go on to affect a further 2 or 3 days. I’ve seen people destroy and entire week from with one night.

If that is what you choose to do, great. Just do it in the knowledge that one night is not just the sum of its intake. Its effects on your progress can be exponentially higher. Only by accepting that can you truly determine if the benefits outweigh any losses to your progress..

So next time you reach for that ‘one’ glass of wine, that ‘one’ beer, that ‘one’ pizza slice. Just remember it is not just the calories you are consuming that count, it is the total effect on your system over the subsequent hours and days.

A malteser may only be ’11 calories of naughyness’, but the hormonal effects are so much more and that should be considered before you justify its consumption.

Make informed choices not those justified through emotional logic or advertising.

If you truly want to change or progress, then make your choice and don’t compromise.

But what do you think?

Too strict?

Do you find you can overcome the ‘hangover’ effects and get straight back on track?

Or is this something that has been holding you back and you have just been kidding yourself?

Comment below and let me know.

A Lesson from Steve Jobs

Monday, October 17th, 2011

The morning we all woke up and heard on the news or read in the paper that Steve Jobs, creator and (former) SEO of apple had died from a  respiratory arrest resulting from the spread of his pancreatic cancer, it was a huge shock to most of us.

Obviously the world has lost a major visionary who seemed to have an incredible talent for ‘getting it right’. (Remember, not only did he found Apple and shape the dominant future that it ended up having, but he also had the foresight to see the potential in a little known company called Pixar). But what does he have to do with a site dedicated to health, fitness and physique training?

Quite simply, his death has re-enforced a point I’ve been trying to enforce for some time now. That you cannot buy your health back once it has gone.

If you have already read the article I wrote on [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]Work Getting in the way of Training & Results[/intlink], you will remember that I made the point that we work to live not the other way around.

That said, Steve Jobs demonstrated a counter to that, in that he found a career that was more of a passion than a job and that is something we should all really be striving for. I know that by switching to the career I have now I am much happier for it, as it is more of a passion than a job. But regardless, if you don’t have balance in your life you don’t have anything.

If your job is just a job (you work for someone else) then there is absolutely no excuse for sacrificing your health, fitness and wellbeing in order to make someone else richer. However, even if you do have a career path that you are passionate about, without your health you will never be able to achieve the targets you have set yourself and your career will come to a very abrupt halt.

Just remember, without your health you have nothing and you can achieve nothing. So whilst it may feel like other things are more important, nothing comes close to the importance of your health.

You may well think that skipping a meal or chowing down on a candy bar ‘just this once’ isn’t going to hurt. Or that you can skip the gym today and you will catch up tomorrow. But these things very quickly become habit forming and ‘just this once’ becomes a regular occurrence. “How you do anything is how you do Everything!”

Just to be clear, Steve Jobs did not die due to a lack of exercise or nutrition (that I know of) but I only sight him as an example as he was worth, at the time of his death, around $7 Billion, yet no amount of money could change the course of his health.

The point being, there are things that could affect your health regardless, but rather than creating them yourself through poor diet, over stress, lack of exercise and poor sleep patterns, isn’t it about time to take a step back and realize that the most important commodity you have is your health and start making the most of it?

As the man said himself:

“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me…” – Steve Jobs 1993

Are you really giving your all?

Thursday, August 18th, 2011

Until now I’ve mainly been looking at excuses that are likely to be holding many people back in their pursuit of an improved physicality and fitness levels. Obviously as a reader of this blog, you are probably not someone who is greatly hampered by such things, but it never hurts to instil the odd reminder now and again.

Today I want to discuss something else that has probably affected all of us at some point.

It’s not so much an excuse, but it is something that is limiting more people in their progress than you might think. In fact it is something I see hour after hour, day in day out. If there is a group of people training, chances are this is affecting at least one of them.

The question is – Are you giving your All at All times?

Just turning up to the gym and going through the motions is not enough to make progress.

If you are one of those people that head for the recumbent bike with a book, have a read while you spin the pedals around, then step off without a hair out of place and think that was a worthwhile 30mins or whatever, then I can assure you, your results are a long way off.

In fact, if that is you, then either make a decision to change right now, or stop reading right here and don’t come back to this site until you are willing to put in some kind of effort.

Similarly, when you hit the weights room, regardless of what you are lifting for, whether it be hypertrophy, strength, fat loss or toning, how you lift is as important, if not more important, than what you lift.

The people that make real progress are the ones who put their all into every rep of every set. If the target of the set is failure, then push to failure, not just until it gets uncomfortable. If the aim is to recruit as many muscle fibres as possible, then you are looking to lift, not just heavy, but with acceleration. Accelerating a heavy weight is the optimal route to accessing your deep threshold motor units, ensuring the largest stimulus for your muscles. If the target is speed, then push to the end, push through the wall and force your body to adapt.

In other words, just making the movement pattern is not enough.

Yes, it is important to learn correct form. It is necessary to spend some time developing your mind muscle connection. It is a good idea to work on bringing up weaknesses. But, regardless of the type of workout you are doing, it is of critical importance that you make the most of it.

Why waste reps?

Now I’m not a big advocate of HIT training, but there is one thing that you can learn from that method. Make every lift, every movement and every set as important as it would be if you only had one chance to make it work. With HIT training you perform one set for each muscle group. One set and one set alone.

Let’s assume you are looking for some major chest development. Imagine each week you only had one set of 5 reps of bench pressing in which to achieve that. 5 reps and that’s it until next week. You would be much more focused, you’d ensure you kept your chest muscles activated throughout the movement on every rep, you’d accelerate the bar with everything you had, you’d squeeze every rep for all it was worth, you’d ensure a full range of motion and you’d do it all with the heaviest weight you could manage.

After all, you’ve only got one shot at this and that has to be enough to make your chest grow.

HIT or no HIT, this is the sort of focus you should be applying to every rep of every set, regardless of the number of sets.

2 people can do the same workout and get massively different results. You could put that down to genetic makeup. But the fact is the person who puts their all into every rep will always outshine the person who just goes through the motions.

Always be in control.

When you are lifting weights, you control the bar, don’t let the bar control you. You lower it and you ‘command’ it back up. That is a very different process than letting it drop under gravity and then trying to grind it back up (before resting at the lockout position for 5 seconds).

If you are doing something a bit more cardiovascular, be in control of your breathing and your form. Remain focused and keep your posture. Then, even though your breaths may shorten and your heart rate quicken, you can control it back down again at a comfortable pace. Don’t bend over double gasping for air. It’s your body, you control it.

“What about overtraining?”

In my experience the attempt to avoid overtraining is, in itself, the most overdone thing in a gym. I am so sick of hearing the ‘overtraining’ excuse.

It is incredibly hard to reach a level of overtraining. I’m not talking about a bit of fatigue because you pushed heavy on a few workouts despite not having enough sleep [intlink id=”979″ type=”post”]I’ve already covered how to deal with that[/intlink] or getting ill from training heavy and hard on a poor diet. That’s a nutritional issue. True overtraining takes weeks to recover from and would require a level of training that most regular people could never find the time to achieve.

I’ve actually seen people stop their workout because the clock told them they had been training for an hour and they didn’t want to go one minute over. I’ve heard others talk of the mythical 45min maximum session time.

It’s all garbage and nothing more than an excuse to stop or simply a lack of proper information.

Think about it – When does the 45mins start? When you hit the gym floor? When you enter the gym? When you lift your first weight? What if you lifted something heavy just before you came to the gym (maybe you had to move a couch) does that mean you better get to the gym quick as your 45mins have started? Of course not!

Train to the maximum level that you can optimally recover from.

Some days that could be 20mins other days it could be 5hrs. There are no set rules and relying on a clock is just finding another constraint to hold you back.

If someone is there to spot you, that doesn’t give you licence to give up.

If you are doing an exercise and you get to a rep that is a real push. It’s probably going to be your final rep, you know you have nothing more to give – in fact you’re not sure you are even going to make this one. Just because you’ve got someone standing over you is not a reason to just relax every muscle safe in the knowledge there is someone there to help you up with the bar.

Your spotter is not there to lift the bar for you, their purpose is to give you as little assistance as possible whilst keeping you safe. Don’t make them have to upright row the bar back onto its hooks because you didn’t have the determination to push out that final rep.

If you are doing 50 meter sprints, don’t just stop and walk at 40 meters because it’s your 6th set, your lungs are heaving & your legs feel like jelly. You lift your chin and you push as hard as you can, it might be slower than a sprint, you may be barely moving, but you set yourself a distance of 50 meters, so that is what you push for. Giving your all right to the line.

I have to return again to the reason you are training at all. The result you are looking to achieve. The physique you so desperately crave. Remind yourself of the reason you are doing this, see it in your head, reconnect with the emotion and use it to push you in every aspect of your training.

The same goes for your diet. Use the emotion to help you decide what to eat or drink. Are your cravings stronger than that emotion? Or are you simply ‘giving in’ because it’s easier at that moment?

You want a result, you have made a commitment to do something about it, you have set aside time to train for that result, so why would you then give sub-optimal effort levels?

If you are already using the excuse that you [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]don’t have time[/intlink], then why, when you give yourself some time, would you waste a second of it? Why would you want to take 5min rest periods just because the exercise it tough and you are putting off your next set? Why would you do sub optimal reps? Why would you eat ‘convenience foods’ when it is going to put you back several days? (not very convenient if you ask me).

Change is difficult. Your body is comfortable as it is (even if that comfort is safe in the knowledge that your health is in danger) it doesn’t want to change. If you force it, it will resist and suddenly all excuses seem logical. At that point, your willpower will lose, logic will go out the window until it becomes hindsight and then it becomes clear.

But it’s too late by then!

So, if you have fallen into any of the traps I’ve described, now you can be mindful of them. Realize what you are doing, take a step back, think about what you want to achieve and more importantly, why? Reconnect with that emotion and use that to overcome your excuses.

Never again should you be making [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]Work[/intlink], [intlink id=”943″ type=”post”]Not Liking Something[/intlink], [intlink id=”979″ type=”post”]Fatigue[/intlink], [intlink id=”1018″ type=”post”]Injuries[/intlink] or Lack Of Intensity a reason for not progressing.

Stop making plans to fail and start planning a route to success.

Your results, your goals, your physique, your health and wellbeing are all in your hands. Take hold of your destiny and leave the excuses behind you. Now go and make the greatest improvements you’ve ever made – No excuses!

How to Manage Your Training when you have an Injury

Monday, August 15th, 2011

Hopefully over the past few articles I’ve dispelled a few myths about what is acceptable as an excuse for letting your physical improvements suffer. However, you may have read through them feeling smug in the knowledge that none of them apply to you. Today’s topic, on the other hand, may surprise you that I am considering it as an excuse as it involves how you manage your training when you have an injury.

As with the [intlink id=”979″ type=”post”]Too Tired Excuse[/intlink], this is not one to be taken lightly and again should be treated with care.

In fact, it is all too common to simply ‘push through’ an injury as the desire for results is so strong and a bit of pain is not going to get in the way of your new physique.

I am as guilty of this as anyone.

I’m probably better these days, but I still have times where I just push through regardless of the feedback I’m getting from my body.

However, as common as that may be amongst the dedicated trainers amongst us, for every yin there is a yang and so, for every person that wants to just push through, there will be another who uses every niggle and pain as an excuse to do nothing.

A bit of elbow pain and suddenly they can’t squat, lunge or run. A knee injury and now a seated row or bench press is out of the question.

Don’t get me wrong, this can sometimes be the case. If you are benching properly, you should be generating the force of the press through your whole body and a severe knee injury could well inhibit this. But, as I said when discussing the ‘too tired’ excuse, doing something is better than doing nothing. Maybe you look to do some floor presses, some rows or presses where you are secured by equipment or a bench. The variety of exercises is virtually limitless and most injuries can be worked around.

If your whole upper body is in traction, get some calf raises done. Spinal problems, then work on that weak grip strength.

Just do something!

You should always look to be sensible. Be safe. Injuries are best avoided.

There is a theory that, if you don’t get injured now and then, you are not working hard enough.

There is a certain element of truth in that. You should be looking to work close to your limits and the only way you are truly going to know what your limits are is by occasionally crossing them.

Remember, all forms of training carry some kind of risk. It is the weight of that risk compared to the potential reward that should determine your training choices though. And in this case you are looking for the reward of keeping some kind of progress versus the risk of further injury.

If you are sensible and methodical about your training choices, there is always a way of doing something whilst limiting any danger of further injury. Don’t be the person that has major shoulder pain and heads to the gym for some behind the neck presses followed by upright rows. In fact, on the risk v reward scale, just don’t be the person doing behind the neck presses or upright rows period! That is just looking for an injury whether you have one or not. But, if you have a shoulder injury, then you may want to work on some light mobility work for your rotator cuff and some heavy leg sessions.

Use the time you would have used on the injured area to bring up any weaknesses. Work on your flexibility, zone in on your glutes, your calves, your forearms, anything that has been causing your issues or holding you back.

Injuries are feedback to be cautious – they are not an excuse to skive!

If you are not moving forwards, you are moving back. Keep your progress moving in the right direction. Remember what you want from your training. As I have continued to say from the [intlink id=”844″ type=”post”]First Article[/intlink] of this series, always go back to your emotional motivation and go do something to move you towards that goal.

If you have missed any of the previous articles in this series you can read them here – [intlink id=”844″ type=”post”]Part 1[/intlink] –  [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]Part 2 – The Too Much Work Excuse[/intlink] – [intlink id=”943″ type=”post”]Part 3 – The Don’t Like It Excuse [/intlink] – [intlink id=”979″ type=”post”]Part 4 – The Too Tired Excuse[/intlink]

These articles have one thing in common with the excuses – there will be another one along very shortly, so look out for it.

Until then, go make some progress and achieve something spectacular.

[intlink id=”1047″ type=”post”]Part 6… Are You Really Giving Your All?[/intlink]

Too Tired to Workout?

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

Over the last few articles I’ve covered some of the often quoted excuses for not fulfilling your potential in your search for a new physique.

We’ve covered using your [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]work as an excuse[/intlink]  and we’ve looked at reasons why not doing thing because you [intlink id=”943″ type=”post”]don’t like it[/intlink] could be hindering your progress.

Today I want to explore the scenario of being “too tired to workout”

This isn’t an ‘excuse’ per say. This is something to be very mindful of. If you haven’t slept well or stress of the day has gotten the better of you and you are lethargic when you hit the gym, often pushing through regardless is the worst thing you can do.

I’m not saying you should do nothing, but just because you did 5 sets of 8 with 100kg on the bar last time, doesn’t mean you should be looking to match or beat that this time.

As a Personal Trainer, it is generally accepted that one of my responsibilities would be to push clients to their limit each time. However, that is not the case and trainers who follow that mantra for every session could be forcing their clients beyond their means.

Remember, your body reacts, grows or develops when you recover not when working out. So you are always looking to do the most work that you can optimally recover from. If you are in a depleted or fatigued state, your ability to recover is compromised, so you cannot put as much stress on your system and expect to develop. Not only that, but your form is likely to suffer making you more susceptible to injuries.

So if I’m training a client, often times my role is to rein them in and protect them from their own enthusiasm.

If their fatigue levels are particularly bad, I’ll look to change the workout entirely and do more of an activation workout to try and stimulate their CNS. Often this is enough to spark their intensity to a level allowing a phenomenal training session. Other times it will energize them enough to get through the rest of the day and promote a good night’s sleep. This, in turn, generates a much better intensity for the next session.

However, being too tired is never an excuse to do nothing. You can always do some kind of workout and as I said above, it can often lead to a great training session or, at the very least, stimulate a better workout next time.

You should remember that improvement is not about individual workouts. As I stated in the article [intlink id=”627″ type=”post”]playing the long game [/intlink] you should be looking for the cumulative effect of everything you do. So even if a day is not optimal, it is still a point on your development and should be considered as part of your overall progress rather than a day off.

So next time you think you are too tired to train, just remember, you made a commitment, you made an appointment with yourself (you should have this appointment in your diary, it is as important as any other meeting). Remember that goal you set yourself, remember why you set it, re-connect with the emotion then go get started.

Listen to your body as you go. Use your emotional connection with your result to push you to work as hard as you can, but if your focus is poor or you form is suffering, change up what you are doing. Look to use some plyometric training, some explosive work or, at the very least, go for a jog and get some oxygen flowing through your lungs. Then re-assess.

Do you feel more focused now?

If so, ramp up the level again. If not, then you can go home, prep something healthy and nutritious to eat and ensure a good night’s sleep ready to give your all the next day.

If, however, you have the same issue several days in a row, then you have a deeper issue that needs to be addressed.

Start keeping a training log along with your food diary. See if there is any correlation between eating habits and fatigue. Make a note of how much sleep you are getting each night. Make a note of how often you are working late (this goes back to the [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]too much work excuse[/intlink] and in particular, note each time you have a ‘too tired’ day.

Remember, your health is everything. Without it, your work will suffer, your home life will suffer, your mental health will deteriorate, your relationships will suffer and you increase your risk of permanent issues.

I’ll say it again, you cannot buy your health back. Your health and wellbeing should be your priority not a luxury.

So if you need to put a stop to overtime for a few weeks, stop agreeing to nights out or maybe even stop yourself sitting up too late with the TV, Xbox or Online Poker, make a concerted effort to do so. Spend your time ensuring you are preparing healthy meals, training well and winding down for a good night’s sleep.

Make YOU your priority for a while.

Two or Three weeks should be all you need.

You may think you can’t afford the time, but really, you can’t afford not to give yourself the time.

Remember, training is a stress on the body that, through recovery, you respond and improve from. But if you fill your life with other stresses, you never recover and you are simply annihilating your nervous system. So you can train all you like, but your physique will never improve and you will not be able to undo the stresses of the day.

Stop living for other people and take some time for yourself. The world won’t stop just because you have taken a step back and long term, every aspect of your life will benefit.

So with another common excuse out of the window, hopefully you are running out and have taken the time to reflect on how they are affecting your progress. But there are many more extremely common restrictions to cover and we’ll get to a very big one next time around.

In the meantime, find a way to increase your vitality and energy levels, to increase your training focus, which will improve your recovery, health and vitality, which will increase your energy levels. And the spiral continues. Re-affirm that commitment to change and go make some improvements starting today.

And as ever, I encourage you to leave your thoughts or associated problems or excuses below. Or perhaps your own views on how to deal with them.

The more excuses we can leave behind the more we all benefit and I very much appreciate the feedback.

[intlink id=”1018″ type=”post”]Part 5…  The Injury Excuse[/intlink] 

 

 

 

Exercises and Nutrition you Simply Don’t Like.

Monday, August 8th, 2011

Last time we looked at the problem of having [intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]too much work[/intlink] and how it really is a choice and an excuse not to achieve the results you are looking for.

And although that is an extremely common excuse these days, the self sabotaging doesn’t end there. So the excuse I want to explore with today’s article is the “I just don’t like it” excuse.

If you read my previous article [intlink id=”402″ type=”post”]How Hate Can Be Turned on its Head[/intlink] you’ll already know that working with an exercise you don’t like is often one of the most beneficial things you can do. If all you ever do is workouts you enjoy or you ‘like’ then you are almost certainly hindering your progress.

Generally people don’t like doing workouts because they are not very good at them or they feel uncomfortable while doing them. The reason for this is you will be using muscles that are lagging or your range of motion is not good enough. Therefore, by not improving these areas, you are drastically limiting your potential and likely making yourself more prone to injuries through muscular imbalances.

Training can be enjoyable at times and the sense of satisfaction at the end of a tough session is hard to beat, but if workouts were easy or comfortable, everyone would do them. But if they were comfortable then they wouldn’t be challenging for your body and so you are not giving your system any reason to respond and develop.

Similarly, when it comes to diet, if something is good for you and is really going to make a difference, then just suck it up and get it down.

I don’t know how many times I’ve heard “I don’t like vegetables” or when you hear the veg intake it consists of only carrots or the occasional salad.

Occasionally I will recommend some kind of peri-workout nutrition in the form of a shake, or some kind of supplement if their lifestyle is making nutritional intake a problem. To then refuse to drink it due to not liking the taste is a poor excuse indeed.

Remember what you are training for. Remember how important that result is to you. Is it really such an issue to eat or drink the odd thing that doesn’t 100% agree with your pallet?

If you are not nutritionally fuelled, your workouts will suffer; your energy levels will suffer; your recovery will suffer. In short, your results will suffer.

I’m not saying all your meals have to be boring or bland. There’s no need to be forcing down chicken and broccoli for every meal. There is a world of variety available without eating garbage and if you have a bit of time, you can really make some exceptionally tasty options (I’ll be adding a few recipes in future articles). But if you are already using the ‘time is short’ excuse, don’t add another one if you have to use some kind of supplement. You can try out different flavours as you go, but if it is your only option, just get it down you. Saying you don’t like something and then chomping on a bar of chocolate, heading to McDonalds or starving yourself.

It may only feel like a ‘just this once’ moment, but these small moments can have huge effects on your results.

So always return to the emotional reason for making the change in the first place. Remember what you want to achieve and why. Think of how you will feel and what it will mean to you to achieve your new physique, to feel healthier, stronger or more vibrant. Remember those changes are for a lifetime and the thing you ‘don’t like’ will only last a few moments. Now ask yourself, which is of greater value to you? Feeling good about yourself or avoiding that one thing?

And just like your exercise choices, you may well find that, by trying foods you didn’t previously like, you may develop a taste for them long term. Then you get the results as well as a healthier pallet to go with it, so further improvements will come much easier in the future.

“I don’t like it” is a child’s response – be better than that! Be the best you can possibly be. So, until next time, when we will be covering another highly common excuse, go prep some greens to go with your next meal.

[intlink id=”979″ type=”post”]Part 4 – The Too Tired Excuse[/intlink]

Work Getting in the way of Training and Results

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

In my last article I touched on the idea that excuses and motivational issues could be the limiting factor in achieving your physique and fitness goals.

If you missed it you can read it [intlink id=”844″ type=”post”]Here…[/intlink]

Let’s have a look at one of these excuses in detail and see if we can’t find a new way of looking at the problem.

“I’ve had too much on at work” – This is probably the most commonly used excuse when it comes to non compliance with a training or eating programme. Now I don’t want to belittle work requirements. Trust me, I’ve been there, where deadlines are just piling up and the work just has to be done. Given the current economic situation, it is understandable that you may want to give your job a little extra priority, if for no other reason than to ensure you remain employed.

But if that additional effort culminates in taking so much of your time that all you are doing is working, it may be time to take a step back and re-assess your priorities.

Ask yourself – what is it you are working for?

If you are in the employ of someone else or a large company the answer is likely a little different than if you are self employed. But as most people fall into the former category, then it may be worth remembering what a job actually is. Your job will have come about as there was a task or role that is required but could not be fulfilled by the current staffing levels. However, it will only be offered if the output that employing you produces is of greater value than your agreed salary.

In other words, your output is generating additional profit for the company you work for. The harder and more efficiently you work, the more it will benefit your employer (not you). Yes you may win favour, a pay rise or a promotion by going the extra mile, but only if you are also increasing the benefits for your employer in the process.

When you are employed it will be for agreed terms – A set number of hours per day or week, within which you will be obliged to carry out specific tasks. Now if you are the type of person who spends all day procrastinating, updating your Facebook Status, Tweeting, watching YouTube videos or any other unproductive activity (obviously reading this blog excepted) and you get to the end of the day having not carried out the work load you should have been able to during the day, then any additional work hours required to catch up are your own doing and that is something you should maybe look at. But if you are working diligently day in, day out, and yet are still find yourself staying behind every night for an extra 3 or 4 hours to ensure the work gets done. That is not your problem – it’s your employer’s. They have failed to staff the workload properly and it is not your job to bail them out. In fact, by doing so, you are potentially preventing someone else being employed and the only person that really benefits is your employer.
So I repeat the question, what is it you are working for?

Most people work at least partially out of necessity.

You work to live, you do not live to work.

If, however, your workload is such that you have no time left to live your life to its fullest, then what is the point?

If you run yourself into the ground, aren’t getting enough sleep  and ruin your health, who is that going to benefit?

In the end if the result is you can’t do your job properly, your employer will just find someone to replace you. And no matter how much extra income you generated, you won’t be able to just buy back your health.

Without your health you have nothing.

And going back to your initial motivation to change – if you don’t achieve your goals or targets, that emotional kick could end up being more encompassing than motivating. You may just end up downbeat and depressed at your lack of progress and end up feeling worse.

Studies have shown that most people can only really dedicate a huge focus to one or two things at a time. That may have to be work on occasion and that is OK. Perhaps your fitness and training have to go on the back burner for a few weeks. But if you can’t find 4 or 5 hrs from a 168hr week to put towards your fitness and wellbeing, then I’d suggest there is something very wrong with your priorities.

If you are working 12hrs+ every day, I’d suggest there is no way you are giving your work 100% focus and dedication 100% of the time anyway and giving yourself and hour or so to hit the gym, go play football or head out for a run may increase your productivity far more than slogging it out for that extra hour possibly could.

Unfortunately the people who really need to be reading this will most likely be the people who have decided to ‘read it later’ and never get around to it as they have ‘too much work on’.

However, if you are currently in this trap, I’d encourage you to take a step back and re-assess your situation. Or perhaps you know someone who needs to take a step back, then please pass this article or its message on to them and do all you can to encourage them to evaluate their priorities.

As I said, I’ve been there, caught up in the work spiral. It took several years of late nights, poor diet and constant exhaustion before I was able to make the decision to change.

And do you know what happened when I did?

Nothing!

The world kept turning and the work still got done. I made a decision that I would never work late more than 1 day in a row and if the deadlines weren’t going to be achieved as a result, I would put the emphasis back on my employer to ensure additional resources were put on the job. Occasionally they wouldn’t appear at first, but I would hold my ground and leave at (or close to) my contracted time and as the deadline approached, suddenly the resources would become available.

So long as you are upfront and ensure that the situation is clear early on and you do all you can within your agreed hours, then a good employer will accommodate you.

Think of it this way – are there people in your place of work who have to leave to collect their kids from school? Would they be expected to stay behind and leave their children stranded to put a few extra hours in on a project? If you had tickets to a concert that you had booked and paid for a year in advance, would you stay behind and miss the concert? Then why should your gym appointment be any different?

Yes it might be ‘just this once’ and if that’s true, then so be it. But all too often, ‘just this once’ becomes, ‘just this week’ which then becomes a couple of weeks, then a month and before you know it all the effort you had previously put in with training and eating well has been completely undone.

Remember, you work to live, you do not live to work. Recall what you wanted to change and more importantly, why. Re-connect with that emotion. Make it stronger. Make it bigger. Make it more important than anything else. If it is really that important to you, then give it the priority it deserves.

Your health and fitness are not a luxury.

Your wellbeing is not of lesser importance than your job.

It may feel like it sometimes, but take a step back and really think about it. What are you working for? Don’t let your job control your life. Don’t let your fear of losing your job or your desire for promotion destroy your personal life, your health or your self-image.

I’m not belittling your work, it may be very important to you, but always remember, you will not be able to carry out any activity, work related or otherwise, if your body doesn’t function properly.

So not eating properly, not getting any form of exercise, lack of sleep or any combination of these things as a result of your job are simply excuses. And they are excuses borne out of fear, stress or implied obligation.

Don’t be weak, don’t be a drone, be what you need to be. Be what you want to be. Be stronger, be better, be your best self and you will reap the benefits.

In the end, the improved energy, vitality and vigour will transfer into all aspects of your life, including your work. That way, everyone benefits.

I’ll leave you with that for now and next time we’ll take a look at some more excuses that could be stopping you making the progress with your fitness and physique transformation.

Until then I encourage you to have a real think about whether you have used the ‘too much work excuse’ or are currently using it and take some time to really assess your priorities.

Hopefully you will begin to put yourself a little higher in the pecking order and you’ll feel better as a result. Stop making excuses and start being the person you want to be, not the one you feel you have to be.

[intlink id=”943″ type=”post”]Part 3…The I Don’t Like It Excuse[/intlink]

Priorities, Motivation and Excuses – Why do you Work Out and Why do you Work?

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2011

If you are the type of person who is looking to be Healthier, Fitter or Improve your Physique (the fact that you are on this site means I would hope that you are) then you are likely either working towards it through training – in the gym, at home or outside – or you are, at the very least, watching what you eat and trying to be a little more active. Even if you haven’t started yet, you are likely planning to make some kind of commitment to change.

If you are looking to make a difference, there was likely something that sparked that desire to change.

Change is not something that comes naturally to any of us and any forced change is usually resisted by your internal psyche, which is where the excuses are generated from that give most people licence to fail.

Your body is comfortable as it is. It likes the known, the familiar. Change is considered dangerous and is to be avoided at all costs (regardless of whether it is good for you or not). Willpower alone will never overcome this long term. You can’t just push through indefinitely. Hence why so many people join gyms with great intentions and after 3 or 4 weeks suddenly have something more important to do.

So if you have made the decision to make a change, tone up, get rid of the beer belly, build a huge chest, improve your speed or lung capacity or get a phenomenal six pack, there was likely some kind of emotional reaction that sparked that desire for change. Maybe you just saw yourself in the mirror one morning and the visual made you feel sick and the determination suddenly hit you. Perhaps you had a few people comment on the size of your gut, or some of your clothes no longer fitted. Maybe it was something more severe like a heart attack, either your own or someone close to you, which brought home how important your health actually is.

Whatever the reason – that emotional response is key to your attaining your goal.

If you are a subscriber to my newsletter you will have received 3 articles not available on this blog. One of them goes into this issue of goal setting in great detail, so I’d suggest giving it another read through. And if you haven’t signed up to the newsletter already, it would be worth your while doing so.

Keeping that motivation fresh is critical.

There is a reason why gyms are full of people who train consistently yet look no different week after week. There is also a reason why one of the most common things you’ll hear in the changing rooms of any gym is “I’ve not been in for a few weeks (or months)…” and it is a phrase that you will doubtless hear from those same people several times throughout the year.

Either something else becomes a priority, their training intensity isn’t high enough or their focus is not where it should be.

Over the next few articles I’m going to have a look at some of the most common problems, to make you both aware that they are happening as well as to suggest solutions that will hopefully help you dismiss your tired old excuses and start making some real progress.

And so you don’t reel out the excuse of not having time to read them, I’m going to divide them up into bite sized chunks and post them over the next few weeks rather than all at once. So again, if you are not signed up to my newsletter, do so now to keep informed as to their arrival dates and give yourself 10mins to have a read through.

Regardless of what you have on, if you really want to make progress, you simply don’t have the time not to read them.

In the meantime, I’ll leave you with this.

Have a think about what you actually want to achieve. What do you want to change about yourself and more importantly, why?

You may think you have already thought about this, but if it has been a while, take the time to review. Are your goals still the same? Is the motivation that got you started just as strong? Are there any new motivational factors you can grab on to?

Really think about this. Get right to the heart of it. Then keep a hold of that thought.

And for now, just look to keep the excuses to a minimum. Stay focused, make the most of your training time and of the nutritional input you do give yourself.

Remember, it’s OK to be yourself, just be your BEST self.

[intlink id=”901″ type=”post”]Part 2…  The Too Much Work Excuse[/intlink]
[intlink id=”943″ type=”post”]Part 3…  The I don’t Like It Excuse[/intlink]
[intlink id=”979″ type=”post”]Part 4…  The Too Tired Excuse[/intlink]
[intlink id=”1018″ type=”post”]Part 5…  The Injury Excuse[/intlink]
[intlink id=”1047″ type=”post”]Part 6…  Are You Giving Your All?[/intlink]